Should I transition? doesn’t work

How would you describe living as a man?

1. A living hell!

2. Tolerable...but my desire to live as a female is constant and unrelenting.

3. Not bad...it's just that I'd rather be a woman.

4. Unpleasant! It's just not what I want.

5. Pretty nice, thank-you very much.

When did you first consciously say to yourself that you wanted to live as a woman? (sexual fantasy or suppressed desires do not count)

1. Childhood.

2. Adolescence.

3. Adulthood.

4. Middle age.

5. Old age.

6. Never.

Are you an addict?

1: Yes: untreated.

2: Yes: but long recovered and living clean.

3: Yes: currently in recovery.

4: No.

Have you seen a qualified expert about your gender issues? (religious counselors or conversion therapists don't count.)

1. Yes.

2. No.

3. Will do soon.

Do you have a history of erotic crossdressing / sissification / forced feminisation fantasies?

1. No.

2. Yes...but they are of minor interest compared to my vanilla fantasies.

3. Yes...and to be honest such fantasies pretty much dominate my sexuality.

(NOTE: This test does not work on the twentieth century idea that erotic fantasies about being female invalidate transgender identity!)

After sexually fantasizing about a scenario in which you are embodied as a woman...how do you feel after you orgasm?

1. The same as always.

2. Relaxed. You've just had an orgasm and the experience was pleasant.

3. Ashamed.

4. Suddenly conscious that you don't want to be a woman at all.

Once the dust has settled and your parents are more informed about transgender issues and psychology, what level of acceptance and support will they give you?

1. Jack diddly.

2. Very little.

3. A moderate amount.

4. Oodles...with lots of love.

5. They'll be pretty solid and reliable.

6. Jack diddly/little but I have other supportive, amazing people in my life.

Have you ever suffered from depression or anxiety?

1. That's pretty much the story of my life.

2. Yes...but only recently.

3. Sporadically.

4. No.

5. Yes...a lot...but I've already sought treatment and it's working.

Most transwomen are sometimes clocked. How will you feel when you are clocked and you hear 2 people whispering in the seat behind you in an aeroplane that you’re ‘a guy.’

1. Die of embarrassment, ask the flight attendant for a parachute and shout ‘geronimo’ as you jump out the plane.

2. Accept it philosophically.

3. Turn around and call them out as ignorant.

4. Keep quiet but be pretty devastated.

After transition, your professional prospects will be...?

1. Rosy. I already have a good career.

2. Rosy. I think.

3. I'm really not sure.

4. A bit precarious but I'm sure it's going to be fine.

Which of the following statements describes your circle of friends?

1. Less a circle and more of a triangle with me and a couple of others.

2. An excellent source of support no matter what my gender is.

3. Solid. But I'm not sure how the trans thing will go down.

4. Once I can live as the real me...that's when I'll get some real friends.

How important is it you pass well?

1. Absolutely necessary. The thought of not passing disturbs me greatly.

2. I'd like to...but if I don't I don't.

3. Not a problem because I will pass with flying colours (and this is not just my opinion but a lot of non-trans people have told me.)

4. The whole issue of passing is so difficult I'd prefer not to think about it.

5. Medium important.

Are you..?

1. Extremely sensitive and a person that cries easily.

2. Somebody with a thick skin.

3. Somewhere between 1 & 2.

Are you..?

1. Extremely lazy.

2. Always on the move: busy, busy, busy...and that's how I like it.

3. somewhere between 1 & 2.

Do you want to have children?

1. I've already got children.

2. Yes.

3. No.

4. Yes...and I'm going to take measures to preserve sperm before surgeries or HRT.

How would you describe your financial situation?

1. Dire.

2. Just about getting by.

3. Reasonable.

4. Pimpingly comfortable.

5. Wealthy.

Give your overall state of physical health a score (10 is the highest)

1. Zero to two.

2. Three to four.

3. Five to six.

4. Seven to eight.

5. Nine to ten.

How much opposition will you face from family, friends or loved ones to your transition?

1. Minimal. Almost none.

2. Some...but they'll come round in the end.

3. I have no idea.

4. A lot!

Which of the following statements describes you?

1. I'm a person who avoids doctors at all costs and hates taking medicines.

2. I have no problem with doctors, medicines, surgeries etc.

3. I don't mind seeing doctors but I'm extremely reluctant to take medecines with strong side effects.

4. I'm a serious hypochondriac who's always worrying about cancer and other illnesses.

5. No strong feelings either way. I do what my doctor tells me.

If I asked you about your three most important ambitions (not including gender related plans) you'd say...

1. I don't really know, to be honest. I need to sort my gender issues out and then I'll get round to broader ambitions.

2. I have absolutely clear what I want professionally, socially and romantically.

3. I know pretty much what I want...but I'm still thinking about the exact permutations.

If you have a conflict or argument with someone do you find yourself...

1. Constantly thinking about it.

2. It's easy for me to put the stupidity of others out of my mind.

3. I find conflict weighs down on me a lot...but I'm able to get over it.

Wouldn't you be happier being gender non conforming and giving yourself more flexibility in how you present your gender?

1. No! I'm a woman...not a gender non conforming bla bla bla!

2. I'd like to be a woman but I agree that it would probably be more chilled being GNC. I'll consider it.

Are you still in the first 12 months of a transgender awakening or you've had a couple/several years to think about transition?

1. The desire to transition is relatively new.

2. I've been thinking and wanting this for years.

3. It's been between one and two years since I had my transgender awakening.

Do you plan on having facial feminization surgery?

1. I'd like to...but I can see no way on earth how I'd afford it.

2. No.

3. No...I don't need it. My face is already feminine (and I'm not deluded.)

4. It's a big priority and I'll do whatever it takes to get it.

Think far into the future when you're a senior citizen. Do you still want to live as a woman even when you're an old hag with wrinkly skin and sagging, horrible breasts etc?

1. Yes.

2. I have to admit...that image makes me stop and think.

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Should I transition? doesn’t work

How would you describe living as a man?

When did you first consciously say to yourself that you wanted to live as a woman? (sexual fantasy or suppressed desires do not count)

Are you an addict?

Have you seen a qualified expert about your gender issues? (religious counselors or conversion therapists don't count.)

Do you have a history of erotic crossdressing / sissification / forced feminisation fantasies?

After sexually fantasizing about a scenario in which you are embodied as a woman...how do you feel after you orgasm?

Once the dust has settled and your parents are more informed about transgender issues and psychology, what level of acceptance and support will they give you?

Have you ever suffered from depression or anxiety?

Most transwomen are sometimes clocked. How will you feel when you are clocked and you hear 2 people whispering in the seat behind you in an aeroplane that you’re ‘a guy.’

After transition, your professional prospects will be...?

Which of the following statements describes your circle of friends?

How important is it you pass well?

Are you..?

Are you..?

Do you want to have children?

How would you describe your financial situation?

Give your overall state of physical health a score (10 is the highest)

How much opposition will you face from family, friends or loved ones to your transition?

Which of the following statements describes you?

If I asked you about your three most important ambitions (not including gender related plans) you'd say...

If you have a conflict or argument with someone do you find yourself...

Wouldn't you be happier being gender non conforming and giving yourself more flexibility in how you present your gender?

Are you still in the first 12 months of a transgender awakening or you've had a couple/several years to think about transition?

Do you plan on having facial feminization surgery?

Think far into the future when you're a senior citizen. Do you still want to live as a woman even when you're an old hag with wrinkly skin and sagging, horrible breasts etc?

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