Why am I a sissy? 10 important questions related to sissy hypno…

1. What’s with the whole French Maid thing?

Much of human sexuality is symbolic. This means that humans attach sexual significance to seemingly non sexual objects – fabrics, muscles, frills, whips, power – and become turned on by them.

As a servant’s uniform, the french maid outfit represents complete submission – which turns the sissy on. However, what really turns a sissy on is to dress /behave /look like a girl, and because the uniform is a stereotypical feminine garment it’s a triple dose of femininity. Also, a French maid – like other occupational fantasies such as secretary, school-girl and air-hostess – is a female job, thus cranking up the femininity value even more.

If you look at other female garments such as girl’s jeans there is very low erotic reward because they are not uniquely feminine. The more feminine a garment is…the more attractive it becomes.

2. Why do men appear in my fantasies? Am I bi?

Possibly…but probably not.

A common aspect of cross-gender fantasy is the appearance of strong, powerful men (often they are faceless). This is curious because in their day to day lives, most femephiliacs don’t find men attractive at all.

Some people believe that this is a suppressed attraction to men. In my opinion, however, the man plays a symbolic role just as a french maid’s uniform does. The appearance of an ultra masculine figure is a device to make the crossdreamer feel feminine (their erotic well-spring.) In the mind of the sissy, your average girl has sex with men…therefore, a man having sex with you makes you feel like a girl. The fact you wouldn’t look twice at a man outside of your fantasies suggests this to be true (in my opinion).

3. What is a sissy, anyway?

Unlike a crossdreamer or sado-masochist, there’s no clear definition of ‘sissy’. That’s because it’s become a name for someone who moves in a specific online ecosystem, rather than a person who belongs to a distinct sexological category. This is demonstrated by the four different groups within sissy subculture.

1) A small minority who are genuinely bi-sexual and like the forced-bi element.

2) A small minority who have a specific fetish for their masculinity being trodden and spat on (metaphorically).

3) A larger minority of transgender females.

4) A majority of men with an inverted sexuality that is characterized by (choose your preferred term)… crossdreaming / autogynephilia / sissification / female embodiment fantasies… where a man gets turned on by the thought of himself as female.

Therefore, a sissy is a person who participates in sissy subculture by visiting relevant sissy fantasy sites on Tumblr, Reddit and other erotic channels. They may or may not live out some of these fantasies in real life.

4. What type of sexual behavior underlies sissy sexual fantasy?

(For the rest of this article I will focus on the majority of men who use sissy porn: those who get turned on by the thought of being female and/or feminized.)

Some sissies don’t realize that they have a unique form of human sexuality that is the subject of much controversy among sexologists. What most agree on is that it’s based on a man’s erotic desire to be a woman in sexual contexts. Thus, a hetero male imagines he is a man in his fantasies…whereas you imagine you’re a girl or a feminized man.

The unique characteristic of crossdreaming is that the sexual fantasy is heavily centered on the self rather than another person. Whereas most men desire to have a sexy slut…crossdreamers desire to be a sexy slut. However, there are so many fluid aspects to crossdreaming that the man usually has a heterosexual attraction to women. Just to complicate things, many sissies also fantasize about men.

Last year I got so mad with all the different names and ideas, I decided to write a short book to definitively categorize and understand the sexuality beneath the sissy phenomenon.

5. Hold on…aren’t I just ‘heterosexual with a little kink on the side’?

The above phrase comes from a poll on ellemesen.com where most sissies say that they are just hetero guys with a little kink.

If you really want to understand your sexuality and not be a transgender fundamentalist or dogmatic fetishist, you need to remember one thing: it’s fluid. In other words, I’m sure you are majority hetero with a minor kink NOW…and probably will be all your life, but a minority of sissies experience a fundamental shift in which the kink becomes something different and a transgender identity develops.

Therefore, while it’s perfectly reasonable to say you’re hetero with a little (or big) kink on the side, you should be aware that it’s a little bit more complicated than that.

6. Oh my God…now you’ve freaked me out. Am I going to end up transgender?

Some guys start worrying they’re going to be transgender once they read the above. Don’t worry…if the thought of being transgender seems like a nightmare then it’s unlikely you will ever have a gender crisis. Getting turned on by being a woman when you’re horny is a different kettle of fish from wanting to be a woman all the time.

Even if you did have serious gender issues one day, there are lots of gender variant men who still live happy lives as men.

7. Why is there such a strong element of submission and humiliation to sissy fantasies?

No one knows for certain. Here are some theories.

1) As with French maids, there is a stereotypical, Victorian strain running through the sissy’s concept of femininity (this may be a cultural or sub conscious memory). Thus, because women were submissive to men for most of history, the sissy thinks they are being more feminine by being submissive and thus adds more erotic power to their fantasy.

2) Masochistic Emasculation Fetish: the real motive behind feminization is the fear of not being sufficiently manly. The user then develops some kind of paradoxical turn-on for what is his biggest fear (it’s a self-defence mechanism.)

3) (My preferred theory) A love of humiliation and domination is present in most people and is a consequence of our simian ancestors. Primate societies are hierarchical and primates are all attracted to the alpha male and/or alpha female. Being humiliated is a sign that one is in the presence of an alpha and the more abject the humiliation the more alpha is the male/female.

8. What’s going on with Sissy Hypno?

Sissy hypno is the crack cocaine of crossgender porn. As experts just begin to understand the amount of dopamine stimulation that internet porn can produce, sissy hypno can be seen as a high dose, mega hit of crossdreamer pornography.

Porn, by its very nature is exaggerated – thus we have women with unfeasibly large breasts and men with unfeasibly large cocks – but the new generation of internet porn goes further. Thus, a commonly experienced fantasy such as climaxing into a woman’s mouth – is transformed into bukkake – thirty men climaxing into a woman’s mouth; one man fucking your wife becomes a whole football team doing your wife. Sissy Hypno follows that logic and bombards the user with dozens of visual and audio sensations in a short time. It is, therefore, a super-stimulant genre of porn.

9. Is Sissy Hypno somehow bad for my health?

Perhaps your moral health…if you start seeing women as bimbo sex machines, but I think most of you are grounded enough to understand that sissy hypno is about cartoon women.

With respect to compulsion, there is nothing specific to sissy hypno that makes it more addictive than other forms of porn. If you’re going to end up being a porn addict you will end up a porn addict anyway. (By the way, porn addiction is very real and while not damaging to the health it does mess with your ability to sort your life out and get on with practical stuff.)

One final point, however, is that some people believe that sissies are more prone to porn addiction because they need to live out their feminine desires. Because their daily life gives them little opportunity to express their fem side, they end up spending an inordinate amount of time in a fantasy world.

10. Will my fruity fantasies interfere with my ability to be a good boyfriend/husband?

Sissies tend to get bored more quickly of conventional sex. When that happens they sometimes lose interest and start investing their sex drive in porn. This is not fair!

When the thrill starts to go, you need to either fess up to your woman and start a new chapter in the sexual relationship (incorporate some bondage etc.)…or you have to man up and make sure you provide the goods. As long as you do that, there’s no problem in being a dirty sissy slut.

Conclusion

I’ve been writing and reading about crossgender sexuality for a couple of years now, and I really am amazed by its quantum nature: it combines elements of heterosexuality, bisexuality, transgender, domination and submission all at the same time. In my opinion that makes it a remarkably sophisticated and unique form of human sexuality.

Be proud!