ELLE: Watch this video from the point I’ve chosen…(It starts automatically at 1 min 46) then read my short post and comments on the video at the end.

Cosmetic surgery can be transformative. That’s an understatement.

Surgery can improve the quality of your life by improving the quality of your appearance. That’s definitely true, and this site is for women who believe this and are actively looking for, saving for and preparing for such surgeries.

However, part of that preperation is to educate yourself 100% on what you are about to do: the risks, the post operative care and the possible downsides. 

 

Do not take surgery lightly!

Even so-called minor procedures (in my opinion there is nothing involving body cutting, suction, filling, etc that is minor) can take months to recover from .Post-operative infection is always lurking in the background.

A lot of people don’t realize simple things like they won’t be able to sleep on their side for a long time, or do sport, or …. fill in the blank… every surgery has a long list of impeded post op activity. 

On the other hand, don’t let fear overcome you from this transformative step, just…

…don’t take it lightly!

 

Research is the key!

  • Research the clinic and surgeon. Some of those surgeons are smooth talkers i.e. good salesman. I fell for this when I was 19.
  • Research, research, research, and not just about the procedure itself, but the immediate week after the surgery, and then the months after, because those are the three distinct periods you need to know meticulously.
  • Then, research somebody who has done a video say one or two years post-op, and see how they talk about it. Were they expecting more, do they regret it, how has it benefited their life or has it detracted from their life?

 

Why I chose Robin’s video 

 

I chose this video because it captures perfectly many people’s experience with cosmetic surgery. That in the end it’s worth it, but you will have to suffer.

If you are squeamish, not resilient and not prepared to suffer a bit… then don’t have surgery.

Finally, the other reason I chose this video is that it seems to me Robin suffered excessively. I must admit that I believe SRS is, even for a plastic surgery addict like myself, daunting. Without wanting to dictate (because surgery is something very personal) I encourage my transgender friends and students to focus on parts of their body which are visible to the outside world.

Robin makes clear how this surgery did not answer the problems that came with being transgender. I would ask you to consider what is the most likely thing to boost your female power: a pretty face (i,e. FFS) or something down below which very few people will ever see (i.e. SRS)? I repeat, surgery is personal so do with this advice what you want, but that is my belief.